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17 year old running the house

I am a stepmom to a 17 year old girl. she constantly acts as if she needs to be shown how to do everything, from washing the dishes right to mopping the floor right and so on but then gets mad when we try to show her how its done. and whenever she is grounded she gets mad. but when she gets mad, it is somewhat scary. she flies off the handle, yelling and screaming obscentities, constantly telling us that either she didn\'t say or do the thing that she has been grounded for or when she can see that the yelling won\'t work, she turns on the tears and starts apologizing. i am at my wit\'s end. i feel like i can\'t stay in the same house as her for much longer, but her mom refuses to kick her out after she turns 18. we are under so much stress because of her that when we talk about the kid, we end up fighting. what is going on here? what can i do about it? and can we get our house back again?

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