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Boyfriend's skeletons and friends' opinions

My boyfriend of 5 years and I have a wonderful relationship with one exception...his past is sneaking into our present. We met because we worked together, and he had been with company for 3 years, therefore had a lot of friends and people who knew him and his lifestyle. He used to party a lot and has been with a lot of women. I am desperately trying to live in the now, but often our mutual friends from this place of work will make comments, such as "his reputation precedes him" or "who would have guessed he would be with one person for so long"...He is frustrated as he believes what these people think is worse than it really was. I don't want this baggage to ruin our lives together, but I have a hard time when I hear it as well. HELP!

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