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Mom's Venting

I can't tell you how I appreciate this service because I really can't put this matter to anyone else. My Mother is obsessed with her family. They all are. It's all they ever talk about and it's not a positive feeling, by any means. She and her sisters and brothers are constantly trying to control and hurt each other. There were 10 of them, but the youngest one is now over 60 and some have died. No amount of time can mitigate their desire to control each other's behavior though. My question is: when my Mother calls and starts to scream and whine about how awful her brother is, (the one that she insisted had to live with her so that he couldn't live with any of the others), what should I do? As a good daughter, do I just listen as she "vents", (her word), or can I suggest to her in some non-hurtful way that this obsession is harmful to her and boring and inconsequential to everyone else?

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