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When Will My Boyfriend Grow Up?

I have grown out of the 'bar scene' in the past year but my boyfriend of 3 years hasn't as much. I don't think he has a problem with alcohol, but I'm starting to worry that someday he will. He tells me everything is fine but I can't get him to understand how concerned I am about his health and how he spends all the money. What can I do to make him understand? I can't see myself living like this forever, constantly worrying about his life while still trying to live a healthy live myself. I love him and we have discussed our future together, but I can't see myself with someone forever who abuses alcohol like he does. As much as I think he has just not grown out of it yet, I worry that maybe he never will.

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